As you may or may not know, I’m currently writing a fictional story about a girl with an illness she does not know about. She spirals in darkness when alone, but sometimes realises that the only way to see the light is to draw her curtains. Right now I’m just getting the skeleton of my story done while thinking about whether I should be bothered with the tiny details like what kind of Turkey I put on the plate and what wood my furniture is made up of (I can’t be bothered, but should I be?).
A friend told me that my writing is not for me, it’s for other people therefore I should add as many details as possible. This “revelation” has made my usually breezy writing process difficult because now I’m finding myself looking all the little details like what’s printed on the shirt (though it reveals one’s character) but we’ll see whether I care enough later.
I thought of the word “eccentric” and wanted to look into what it really means, who are the eccentrics? I quote from Wikipedia, “the eccentric’s habits are incomprehensible not because they are illogical or the result of madness, but because they stem from a mind so original that it cannot be conformed to societal norms.”
That same friend has told me that I was weird but “not in the face”. Literally everyone who knows me beyond my face would use similar adjectives to describe me. Crazy, weird, funny, I hear them all the time. They’d tell me that I need a boyfriend or a husband to cope with my odd behaviour which I now want to associate with eccentricity.
Eccentricity is perhaps a form of mental illness, but mental illness makes the person suffer. I do not find myself suffering. I’ve met many individuals, out of the need to be different from others, exaggerate that made up “weirdness”. They’d deliberately listen to songs of metals clanking singing with their raw throat voice because it’s not “mainstream” and have perhaps stolen the sunglasses from their grandfather because it’s “hip fashion”. Their hair is green because it’s a form of expression (of being related to Nessy?) and butt cheeks can be seen from their super short shorts because they “love” their body.
These are made up examples of people I made up in my head who try to express themselves differently from people. They don’t want to associate themselves with the norm so they try hard to be different. Nothing wrong with that, but there’s nothing eccentric to that.
And then I found this (I do love Wikipedia yes I know you can edit them self-editable it’s still reliable to me), and found that ALL of the bullet points related to me:
Characteristics (of Eccentricity):
Psychologist David Weeks mentions people with a mental illness “suffer” from their behavior while eccentrics are quite happy. He even states eccentrics areless prone to mental illness than everyone else.
According to Weeks’ study, there are fifteen distinctive characteristics that differentiate a healthy eccentric person from a regular person or someone who has a mental illness (although some may not always apply). The first five are found in most people regarded as eccentric:
– I am a law abiding citizen when it comes to the safety of others or things that could made me thrown into jail. I don’t speed and I don’t riot but I am nonconforming.
- Strongly motivated by curiosity
- Idealistic: wants to make the world a better place and the people in it happier
– In my blog I have written many self-made up theories on how the world would spin harmoniously if …….
- Happily obsessed with one or more hobbies (usually five or six)
– The word is obsessed. A couple of people have pointed out how I don’t know the scale 5. My scale is either 0 or 10. Hot or Cold. et cetera. They find it baffling. It’s weird. Why would you?
- Aware from early childhood that they are different
– I’ve always known that’s why being “different” has never bothered me. My sister has started wearing a hat to school and her friends asked her, “Aren’t you afraid?” I asked, of what? They say “of being different.” Huh? We’re not attention seekers. We are not afraid of being odd. We just don’t want sun meeting our face.
- Opinionated and outspoken, convinced that they are right and that the rest of the world is out of step
- Noncompetitive, not in need of reassurance or reinforcement from society
– Recently someone tried to give me a harsh method of pep talk to “motivate” or “inspire” me. If only people had understood that different people are made up of different emotional and mental substances, they’d be smarter in their ways of approaching people. Me, for example, I am unmoved when people say I should make more money. I honestly do not feel the need to return the “debt” I owe to my parents for bringing me up (hello, parental responsibilities?). When I’m motivated, I do it without anybody telling me to. When I’m competitive, I go all out. When I’m not, I’m just not. Relax. (of course I know I’m supposed to support my parents lolz it’s common sense)
- Unusual in his eating habits and living arrangements
– Not going to mention my eating habits and sleeping arrangements because even this concurs that I fit in the eccentric characteristic.
- Not particularly interested in the opinions or company of other people, except in order to persuade them to his – the correct – point of view
- Possessed of a mischievous sense of humor
– Guess it’s going to be forever then.
- Usually the eldest or an only child
- Bad speller
– This was the only thing out of the Eccentric list. I am an excellent speller.
Oh, the last point is not me: guess I’m not as eccentric as I thought I am…..
Wait I am dyslexic just not in the spelling department.
So, do you think you are this list?